All posts by Juana Maria Summers

 

Love should be enough

I came across the latest atrocity in systematic violence against women on CNN’s Headline News today and investigated further to get a clearer picture through the Ms. Magazine feminist wire.

I’m not sure how this kind of thing happens today. I’m not sure how anyone can view it as entertainment and tape the footage on their cell phones and sell it to a major American news network or other location. Furthermore, I don’t understand how anyone can watch someone’s life being taken without helping.

The news wire article estimates that up to 1,000 men could have participated in ending this 17-year-old woman’s life. That means that there were up to 2,000 hands that could have helped her up instead of pushing her down or that could have blocked her from the countless stones that smashed her body, ultimately and publicly murdering her. News reports say that this is culturally called an “honor killing,” but where is the honor in ending a woman’s life while she is unable to defend herself? I’m nothing less than disgusted.

Cultural norms or otherwise, there are some things that I will never understand, and killing because of love is one of those things. I suppose I’m lucky. No, not lucky. Fortunate. I am fortunate because, in America, it is a crime to murder someone for choosing to love outside of his or her religion. Even twenty minutes later, this story still leaves a terrible taste in my mouth. It is evident that this story is too close to home for me to stomach. I’m in a relationship that spans religious diversity, and daily I do not hide my head or fear for some kind of repercussion. There are people who, of course, find my situation distasteful — and each person is allowed his or her opinion. But I’ve never had to fear for my life like this woman must have. So, as I reflect on my own life and the life of this woman, only one year younger than me, I realize that, no, I am not lucky. She was deprived of the life she should have been allowed to have and love she should have been allowed to express.

It is hard enough to find love, and those who are able to find it are fortunate and should be able to celebrate it rather than wondering if the next day is the day that they will lose their lives because of it. I can only hope that there will come a day when love of all kinds is embraced.

 

 

The last time I’ll ever say the words “Don Imus”

For two weeks now, I've been biting my tongue about former CBS host Don Imus and comments he made on a broadcast regarding the Rutgers women's basketball team. The phrase "nappy headed hos" has been thrown around far too much, and as a journalist, I'm the last one who wants to give him any more unnecessary publicity.

Now Imus, who also works with WFAN-AM/New York is reportedly suing the corporation for $120 million. In the draft of suits, allegedly Imus argues that the network expected his content to be both controversial and irreverent, and that his comments did not violate FCC rules.

I'm a journalist, and I love the First Amendment. Because of it, I'm able to say what I've got to say, publish articles that people take offense to, and blog on this and other websites. But people need to expect that when they say things that are deviant from society's norms, an audience will get riled up.

I'm a college student, and an editor at my campus newspaper, and because of a story I ran and a source I used, it is likely that someone will be sued. I knew it going in, and Imus knew that his commentary about the women of Rutgers would cause some backlash. Did he think that he would get fired? That's unlikely. But unfortunately in this society, words have recourse.

I'm from Kansas City and have been following the Imus controversy through the sports columns of Jason Whitlock. My boyfriend said that he has made some of the most profound commentary on race and has emerged into this arena level-headed and with a fresh perspective. I agree.

Like Whitlock, I think we need to really, really open our eyes. As a black woman, I'm not threatened by Imus and don't feel like less of a person.

The women of Rutgers are still good basketball players and likely still good people. One ignorant comment did not change their season or personalities. I feel like by talking about this issue so much, we've just worsened the actual comment and magnified it.

If we're going to target one guy for an inappropriate comment, we should be targeting all of rap and hip hop for comments made in a similar vein. I'm not pissed off about Imus; I am simply disinterested.

Don Imus  please just shut up. I can't take another second of you in the spotlight, really. So you're out of a job, but you just got hours and hours of free publicity in exchange for espousing racist and sexist views on air.

I can't help but wonder what would happen if Imus tried to create a media circus and nobody came. Imagine a courtroom not crowded with reporters and interested individuals. Imagine if his face wasn't on our televisions and his voice didn't echo on the radio constantly…Imagine if Imus went back to what he was before  an insignificant, meaningless shock jock. I'd be happier.

So would everyone else.

 

Zeroed out

Nearly six years ago, the United States and the global community were jarred on a September morning by a crime against humanity that none of us will soon forget. I remember being in eighth grade, unfamiliar with the city of New York, but I had the innate sense that something was wrong here.

As a college freshman, I finally ventured to the vast city as part of an Alternative Spring Break program, stood at the Port Authority Terminal, and looked out over what was once the site of the Twin Towers and what is now still a place of ruin. Only, the sorrow and reverence that marked the site in the months following September 11th's devastating events is occasionally washed away, and on my visit I instead encountered marketing of the grief of a nation.

The reality is, I am tired of crying and being saddened and disheartened, only to have that grief further affirmed by the capitalistic actions of those who market Ground Zero and who peddle about the site hoping to make a dollar off of the countless tourists who stop and visit each day.

I didn't lose anyone in this tragedy, and for that I am luckier than many, even those I know personally. But I still want to see a rise from the ashes of destruction and devastation. Since September 11, that phoenix-like rebirth has been promised. Now we are simply waiting for that promised action.

Project Rebirth, a nonprofit organization out of New York City, has been waiting for that action too and chronicling such on the Web in still pictures and in video. The site recognized the same reverence to be seen about the site as I did, yet ignored the commercialism, potentially to focus on the hope or remembrance that the location itself brings.

What we are waiting for, as a nation, and as a world, is the fulfillment of a master plan, which is the brainchild of Daniel Libeskind. His design for the rebuilding of the site was selected in 2003 and includes the construction of Freedom Tower (which will be the second tallest building in the world). The site, in its entirety, will include 10 million feet of additional office space between the five towers.

From the ashes of terror and destruction, the architects and builders involved with renovating Ground Zero hope to create greatness.

Six years have passed, children grow older without their fathers, and the realization that loved ones will never come home is still a unique pain that no one can comprehend. But in the midst of a construction zone, a country is trying to heal. We must help it.

For more information on Project Rebirth, and to find resources where you can help fund the current projects or donate to victims/survivors of September 11, visit www.projectrebirth.org.

 

The slow dance

Too often we take for granted our own liberty.  I am in an interracial relationship, and until certain issues come up, I often think nothing of it.

This story is one of those issues.

A small city in Georgia is finally taking steps towards desegregation of its high school's prom.

Ashburn, Georgia is located in south central Georgia and is reported to house around 4,400 people.  Sixty-five percent of those are black, and 32 percent are white, according to census data.

Historically, students who attend Turner County High say that things have "always been this way" and that this seems to be the first successful attempt to integrate dances.  All other efforts failed due to lack of student support and student turnout from both white and black groups.

It is 2007, and we are more than 50 years away from the fundamental Brown v. Board of Education decision, which effectively made academic segregation illegal based on inequality.  However, too often Brown and other paramount decisions are the only things we look at when it comes to separation of races.  Sometimes, its the legacy, not the legality, that confines us.

The harsh reality is that, in the United States, while separate but equal may be the law, affirmative action may exist ,and discrimination may be effectively illegal  hate is real and entrenched.  If a group of four high school students in Georgia can work to change it, why can't we? Furthmore, why has it taken us so long?

 

Delivering hope

Sometimes, it takes looking from the inside to recognize greatness. From the outside of New York City, the media often presents us a picture of coarse New Yorkers, unconcerned with the fates of others, commuting back and forth through their busy lives. But on further inspection, the negligence and head-in-the clouds attitudes doesn’t touch all aspects of the city that never sleeps.

For a week, I was immersed in the New York culture. Like hundreds who live in the city, I took the subway to and from work each day, smashed in between strangers I didn't know, only to be deposited a 20-minute walk from work at Houston St. The subway system and its passengers became familiar to me, but the reality that became more true was that of the people who dedicate their lives to help others.

God's Love We Deliver isn't located in one of the magnificent buildings so typical of New York city, but in stature, it stands greater than all of them. The organization, located near Soho, is housed in a modest brick building, but more than 1,500 clients are served through its swinging doors daily.

God's Love We Deliver is changing the reality of people with HIV and AIDS, as well as other demonstrated medical needs daily by fufilling one of their most basic needs – nutrition. Meals are based on a diet for a person surviving with HIV and AIDS, so they are always over 2000 calories, and are handmade each day by volunteers and paid employees.

The kitchen is more than just a mere assembly line. During my week's stay, it wasn't uncommon to strike up a conversation with one of the regular volunteers, or to joke around with visitors from Harvard, or even catch one of the cooks singing a parody of Snow Patrol's "Chasing Cars." From helping, God's Love We Deliver does more than just deliver meals door-to-door it is rapidly creating a fellowship between people who care about other people.

What makes God's Love We Deliver so amazing isn't the numbers or the statistics we can view on paper  it's each individual person who suits up in a hairnet and rubber gloves to try to make a difference.

Derry Duncan, the volunteer specialist who walked us through training for the week we worked there, is one of the most charismatic individuals I have ever met. The woman is an enigma who didn't choose this work  it chose her. Yet her passion is palpable every time she speaks. In the entirety of a week, I never saw her without a smile on her face, and her gratitude for each and every volunteer was so visible.

To me, GLWD is Derry, and people like her, who don't think twice about whether or not they should become involved in helping others  they simply do, and through their enthusiasm and courage, inspire other people to come along.

According to the New York State Department of Health, more than 10,000 people in the city of New York alone live with HIV and AIDS. Though progress has been tremendous since it first prevailed many years ago, we have no scientific cure. But maybe, through feeding those who, perhaps without a little help, could not eat, we are actually helping to find a solution. So thank you to Derry and all others who give of themselves to do this work. It isn't just another volunteer assignment  really helping is a lifetime task.

 

For the Comfort Women

According to an article published Friday by the Associated Press, the Japanese government said it has no evidence that Japanese women were forced to work in World War II military brothels, according to a statement made on Friday.

The government has not come across anything recorded in the materials it has found that directly shows so-called 'coercion' on the part of the military or constituted authorities," the statement read, as presented in Tokyo.

These women, better known as comfort women, were a part of an atrocious history of sexual slavery on the Asian continent sixty years ago. During World War II, the victims, according to a report complied by Amnesty International, up to 200,000 women were enslaved sexually by the Imperial Army, between 1932 until the end of World War II.

Following these devastating acts, these

Sixty years later, these women have been unable to find justice from the government that ultimately led to their physical and emotional discomfort.

While the American government has watched from afar, it remarkably has not remained silent. In 2005, and again this year, members of the United States Congress have sponsored legislation which would plead for an official apology for the women involved.

There are few times that there is extreme bipartisan support of a measure, especially when it deals with international relations. However, both Democrats and Republicans in Congress see the requests of the comfort women as valid, and want our government to demand this simple act of justice. I stand with them.

There is a striking possibility that the surviving comfort women will never hear a "sorry" from the Japanese government, and an even more likely possibility that they will die before recognition is made. The surviving women are in their 70's, roughly, and have broken their silence to speak out against the sexual violence attributed to war. Breaking their silence, in the Japanese community, led to shame and ousting from mainstream society. But these women outweighed their own discomfort for a greater good, and for that, I admire them.

I personally became connected with the story of the Comfort Women as an actor in the Vagina Monologues on my college campus. Eve Ensler, who compiled the monologues, interviewed several of these courageous women, and made them the topic of the 2005 spotlight.

Theatre is a powerful tool that liberates those who perhaps can not free themselves from societal entrenchment. The comfort women, though few in number, will be heard. Each year, thousands of women will relate their tale on college campuses across the country. These women will trouble the community to take action, to remember, and to speak out against acts of violence against women in times of war.

When those in our global community have no voices, we must be their voices. When those in our community can not achieve justice on their own – we have to help them find that inner peace.

Perhaps the Japanese government will never recognize these atrocities verbally. There is a striking chance that their history will not appear in the country's history texts – those things, those institutional barricades to truth, are not things we are able to control.

But we have to remember the comfort women.

 

Every girl deserves a happy ending

A Reuters article announced that the Walt Disney Company will welcome its first black animated heroine to join the ranks of Cinderella, Snow White, Jasmine, and the other Disney Princesses. “The Frog Princess” will be released in 2009, starring Maddy, a girl from the French Quarter in New Orleans. 

The Disney Princesses, in total, have raised over $3 billion dollars in retail sales across the country since 1999. That doesn’t include data from the individual princesses, as they were marketed to young girls. Effectively, this number recognizes the willingness of our society to buy into the happy endings that Disney films promise.

But these happy endings became multicultural only recently. Before Jasmine, the first Disney character of color, was introduced in 1992, all of the princesses Disney marketed to global youth were white: Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Snow White, Belle, and Ariel were familiar faces.

Disney has been heralded as a corporation dedicated to family entertainment and the wishes and dreams of all children. But without representatives from diverse ethnic groups, how can there be happy endings for all?

Furthermore, the company’s animated films, for a great deal of its history, showed only frail women. Snow White, Cinderella, and Ariel all needed saving. So did Jasmine, but to a much lesser extent. Her frailty was far less pronounced. Until Mulan and Pocahontas were marketed, women seemed resigned to have their fairytale ending with a man tied to their hip, or at least predominantly responsible.

Hopefully, with the introduction of Maddy from New Orleans, all that will change. Dreams of a future free of hate and intolerance, the embodiment of the so-called villains that Disney constructs, have no color. Every girl deserves a chance for a happy ending, or at least a dream of one.

 

When personal and political mesh

When I agreed to begin writing for InTheFray, I promised that my personal biases, thoughts, and experiences would not dominate the things I wrote here. As an avid blog reader, as well as a journalism student, I believe that blogs beginning with the words “from my experience” are often uninteresting to the readership and convey little more than a narrative. However, today’s topic was literally handed to me from my own experience, and that is what I have to go with. I hesitated on posting this for more than a week, just to make sure I was giving the incident its social and political justice, and that I wasn’t just using this as a place to rant. But I think it makes sense when you look at it from the outside.

 

I live in a small-city-turned-college-town by its home to, historically, one of the strongest athletic programs in the Big 12. I live on the edge of campus, right near downtown, and am able to watch the city and the university mix together in a unique fashion. Although I write crime for the university’s student newspaper, I have never feared walking alone at night from my job or doing most activities independently.

But today everything changed. I had my car battery replaced and decided to stop at a gas station down the road from my dormitory. I had walked there before over the fall; it wasn’t that far away. They had good prices. It seemed a perfect fit.

But I didn’t fit in. As I walked into the store, a man with dreadlocks in a newer blue car stopped me, asking repeatedly what my name was and then for me to get into his car. I stared at him blankly, refusing any other response except to walk into the store to buy glass cleaner. I just wanted to get my windows clean.

I exited the store, Armorall and Mountain Dew in hand, and started the lengthy task of washing the windows on my Jeep.

I didn’t realize how out of my element I apparently was until two young men, close to my age, started shouting at me. Then, I started getting scared. But I tried to just keep washing my windows and the seat covers in my car. I didn’t want to seem scared. After all, I paid taxes here, too – it’s my city, too.

After the men retreated behind the side of the building, my heart stopped racing a little bit, and I began to put everything back into my car so that I could leave and head back to the dorm before going to classes. But I didn’t get much time to relax, or slow the adrenaline that was pulsing through my veins like fire.

All I could think at that moment was how much I wanted to go home. No, not to the dorm on the campus I’ve lived since August, but home, to my home. Where I drive everywhere safe and secure in my two-door Jeep. Home, where my mother is a vigilante and watches out the back door when I drive in from work late at night. Home, where I’ve never felt insecure and never questioned my own safety while trying to fill a car with gas.

But I just calmly drove back to my dorm, taking the long route as to avoid being followed, and dialed my mother on my cell phone as I did so. It took all of my willpower not to burst into angry tears.

“You go to college in a small town with a small-town mentality,” she said. “You guys need to keep traveling in packs.”

I knew she was right, but I didn’t want to be confined to leaving the dorm or the vicinity of my classes to only when two or three of my friends could tag along. These were my streets – the streets where I had wandered excitedly after making my college choice less than a year ago. These are the streets I was supposed to feel comfortable and at home on. Now, all I want is to get away from them.

What right do men walking at the corner of Providence and Walnut have to rob me of my security, of the knowledge that any streets I choose are my own? They don’t have the license to take away my safety – but I’ve given it to them by my own fear.

Tonight, I am driving around a campus I usually walk with abandon because I do not want to be caught off guard. I will drive to another part of the city to fill my car with gas. It is likely my boyfriend will fill a role he was never meant to – a watch guard of sorts, because I am too wary to wander on my own at night.

Follow-up postings discussing the issues of women’s safety and offensive attitudes in small towns will follow shortly. Sometimes the personal and the political merge in a unique matter. Sometimes, we can’t help but speak from what we know, rather than what we have to say.

 

“Academy” has a weightier voice

You can keep the politics out of the Academy Awards.

Well…not really. Tonight’s winner for Best Live Action Short Film, West Bank Story, makes sure that the Oscars see a dose of what’s really on intellectual America’s mind.

Beyond the questions of what exactly Nicole Kidman is wearing and who will win the coveted Best Picture award, the reality is that America still exists outside of the Kodak Theatre in Hollywood, even tonight.

 

 

Two fated lovers meet West Side Story-style between two opposing falafel stands in Ari Sandel’s comic take on the conflict between Pakistan and Israel. The dance clips, found both in the trailer and the film, could compete with any Broadway musical.

Short or not so short, this film can roll with the punches. And Sandel encapsulated the tension between the film’s weighty subject matter and lighthearted approach perfectly for the billions of viewers.

“One of the things I wanted to do was combat all of the negative news that’s constantly in the news about the situation, and I felt that the best way to do that would be through comedy,” said Sandel.

And his approach on the always-pressing situation in the Middle East was not the only political commentary, to be sure.

As Leonardo DiCaprio and former Vice President Al Gore announced, the Academy Awards have “gone green.”

“Though we may have a long way to go, all of us can do something in our own lives to make a difference,” said Gore, after gracefully refusing DiCaprio’s bait to announce his often-debated position on running for Commander in Chief of the United States.

We still don’t know what Gore’s up to as for 2008, but we do know one thing for certain after tonight’s awards the American public and the global public is not as vapid as commonly teemed.

While fashion, fun, and entertainment matter, so do national politics, international politics, and thinking green, even in the entertainment industry.

 

Superbowl commercials sell stereotypes, not products in 07

The majority of the attention at Sunday’s Superbowl parties certainly wasn’t always on Peyton Manning and the Indianapolis Colts.

Friends and I attended a Superbowl party at a local restaurant, and it didn’t take long before one of the truer highlights of the game – the commercials – took center stage.

A well-dressed business man walks down a hallway, talking mostly indecipherably from background chatter in the restaurant about his company. No one pays much attention and the commercial is dismissed as another ‘talker,’ clearly not expecting bouts of laughter. But when the male lead takes off his glasses and steps into the marketing room for GoDaddy.com, everything changes.

The question then became, “So what does GoDaddy.com do anyway?”

The ad, linked here, highlights well-endowed women in white logoed tanktops jumping up and down gleefully, while being rated by a number of “biker types,” clad in oversized black t-shirts. If that wasn’t enough to have the eyes of countless men in the room fixated on big screens – the waterworks would do exactly that.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but somehow, wet t-shirt contest doesn’t scream domain registry and web hosting to me. It screams sexism and objectification.

Sure, the Superbowl’s target audience is men, ranging in ages from their late teens on up to the 50-something population. But perhaps the visual was unnecessarily crass and sexualized. Scratch perhaps – that’s a definite.

The clencher: in a user poll by AOL Sports, the commercial didn’t fare that well against other, less “in-your-face” advertisements. In a poll for 2nd-quarter commercials, GoDaddy.com was trumped by the Budweiser dalmation, which came in with 31 percent of the vote. GoDaddy.com’s busty women only held the attention of 2 percent of those polled.

However, don’t let me mislead you. The stereotypes still sell.

Moving on to the Snickers kiss commercial, which painted two unmistakably ‘manly’ men meeting for an accidental kiss after sharing a Snickers bar.

Several problems emerge – the clear media construction of masculinity (who really rips hair off of their chest? Male friends at our table were polled, and apparently that takes a clear level of insanity), as well as the sounds of disgust echoing from around the room when the men’s lips met.

Even in post-Brokeback America, the general population can’t wrap its head around the idea of two men liplocking, whether on the big or small screens – or in real life.

Why is being gay, or being uncomfortable with homosexuality, so accepted in the United States? Why is homosexuality considered a threat to masculinity, as shown in the candy bar ad’s portrayal? What are advertisers selling today, their world views or their product?

Given the choice between the rest of the ads and the cute, yet safe, dalmation by St. Louis-based Anheuser-Busch, I’ll take the dog.

 

Rape is America’s four-letter word

It isn't the woman walking through a dark alley way or the woman who "wants it" who becomes the next victim of rape and sexual assault. It isn't a woman deemed sexy by middle-class society. The assailant isn't large, black, and waiting for her, and he isn't a stranger in most cases. These are the myths surrounding rape and sexual assault that cloud our media and further attack men and women who are victims of this violent crime. With such hefty assumptions furthered daily by the mainstream, it should be no shock that rape is the violent crime that goes unreported most often.

Statistics abound regarding the numbers of women affected by rape and sexual assault. The predominant statistic circulated among rape educators reads “1 in 4 women will be affected by sexual assault or rape in her lifetime.” That is 25 percent of roughly half the world’s population – 25 percent that will be violated in some way by another person against her consent, against her will.
The legal system is failing our victims, failing our men and women by taking one of the most devastating violent actions and getting it caught up in the bureaucracy of legal red tape. A woman in Florida reported a rape, but instead of following through with the prosecution of the incident, she was jailed when a former warrant surfaced. A statement by the Florida college student also says an employee of the jail refused to administer a second dose of the “morning after” pill.

The woman received an apology from the Tampa police, according to the article, but it doesn’t remove the devastation.

Instead of consoling victims, or helping those who brave their own fears and report a rapist, we as a society too often chastise them, smear their names in the media and dehumanize them even further.

Have you looked at the Duke lacrosse rape case ? Perhaps, a better question would be “Who hasn’t?” Though the facts of the altercation are grey at best, given the intense media campaign coupled with commentary by leaders in all walks of life.

This case, beyond any other, has made it painfully clear that the American nation needs a shift in mentalities when it comes to victims of rape and sexual assault. Immediately, this woman’s claim was lessened because of two key factors and perhaps misconceptions when it comes to speaking about rape and sexual assault. First, society discredited this woman because of her deviant profession – an exotic dancer. As a sex worker of sorts, it was believed that she could not be raped. A career choice, made for whatever reason, does not take away a woman’s ability to give consent.

Secondly, the woman involved was a woman of color accusing young white men from a prestigious university. The combination of the two factors built a case against her in the public eye, regardless of other issues in the case. All of the cards were already against her.

I can imagine the fear that goes along with such a situation, in knowing that no one is going to believe you, yet persisting with identifying high-profile sexual assailants. Am I saying that I, without a shadow of a doubt, believe in this woman’s claims, inconsistent story and all? No. But, the vast majority of survivors or victims of sexual assault and rape do not lie about their experiences. I owe her the same benefit of the doubt.

Rape isn’t only a woman’s issue and never should have been assigned to that domain. The violent act itself is most commonly perpetrated by men against women, and that in and of itself is enough to break down the stereotype that men “don’t have to worry about it.” The chilling statistic that declares that 1 in every 12 men will be raped or sexually assaulted adds to the mounting case that society is ultimately dismissing a horrible phenomenon, that at one point or another, will affect most people in the country in some way or another. It is fortunate that each individual in this country will not have to deal with the atrocities of rape and sexual assault personally. However, in some way or another, most will be touched through the life of a survivor – a sister, mother, aunt, grandmother, best friend, partner, or other individual. Rape is not something we can close our eyes to.

Rape and America’s inconsistent, at best, attitude towards it didn’t disappear with the 20th century. It still exists and will continue to do so until someone says it’s time for the violence, the legal bias, the media judgement, and the acceptance to stop.

The longer we treat rape as a four-letter word, unspeakable except for in hushed tones, the more victims will amount and the fiercer battle we create for ourselves as human beings.